Light on or lights off: that is the question.

It’s not really a question because the answer is clearly light off.

Before rumbling on about how you want to see the expression on his face and lock eyes whilst everything is unfolding, let me explain. Lights off removes the ability to see, heightening your sense of touch, making the whole experience more sensual. But that’s the politically correct answer. The honest, practical answer is that darkness can save you from facing some unnecessary truths about your partner’s body. Yeah, I said it.

Can we move on now? Lovely.

The truth is that switching off the lights will safeguard, shield and preserve your relationship for the long run. It’s simply good bed economics. Our naked image depreciates in value with every single look, every single glance from our partner. Think of it as…Mona Lisa. You travel to Paris, wait for hours in line to see it and when the moment finally arrives, you worship it, you cherish it, you document it, you remember it. If Mona Lisa was hanging on your kitchen wall, the novelty would wear off pretty quickly. 

And yes, in an ideal world you would see the painting or your partner’s body in this case, in broad daylight and love it more and more every time you saw it. Romantic, I know. Realistic? Don’t think so.

You can turn on the lights and face the naked truth or preserve the magic in the dark. The choice is yours.

P.S For those of you that made the snarky comment “So what about sex during daytime? What do you do then?” I have the meticulously researched response of: close the drapes or your eyes.